Our today’s learning is all about COMMUNICATION & TOGETHERNESS.
Communication is more than just talking.
You give a great deal of information without using words, by your body posture, your tone of voice, and by the expression on your face – and you can see others doing the same. These non-verbal ways of communicating tell the other person how you feel about them. If your feelings don’t fit with your words, it tends to be the non-verbal messages that are heard and believed.
To enhance communication you can:
Kiss and hug your partner every day and give them a smile when you make eye contact.
Set aside time to talk without interruption from other people or distractions like TV, phones or computer games.
Talk about what is happening in your lives, the good and the not-so-good, and how it affects you. Talk about small things and big matters; about something funny you saw or heard; about how you’d like to spend your birthday; or where you‘d like to go for a holiday one day and your concerns about the children.
When appropriate, in a respectful way, try to tell your partner what you are feeling and thinking about a particular matter, even if it might upset him or her.
Really listen to and observe your partner and try to understand his or her intentions, needs and wants.
Communication and Togetherness involve sharing and respecting others thoughts and feelings. Most people have never learned how to communicate, without this skill; a person is handicapped in an intimate relationship.
The Purpose of Communication in Relationship.
Let us understand the importance of communication in a relationship with a case study:
Once I met a couple whose relation had eroded. After having a conversation with a couple, what I realized was, both partners were noticing some anger issues. They both admitted that issue causing the problems were; wife’s anger problems, which was evident when they disagree about something they get into an argument. This inability to communicate without anger was causing him to resent her and withdraw. As we spoke, the wife became clear that her anger was simply a surface emotion that came from a fear she had of being considered inadequate and unworthy for being wrong. So, she found it safer to simply blow up and throw the whole situation into chaos rather than feel the pain of rejection.
After communicating her fear, to her surprise, the husband brightened up and held her hand. Instead of rejection, she found acceptance as a result. Then he shared some of his own fears and they were able to find common ground even in their fears and insecurities.
NOTE: Our fear and insecurities are what create barriers to communication in a way that creates togetherness. How is that true for you?
Till Next Time…
Your Relationship friend,
Sheetal Sethi.

Kuch Toh log khenge logo ka kaam hai khena, choro bekar ki baton ko kahin beet na jaaye rehna “ aah such a beautiful song with an amazing and deep meaning.
When I was doing “ Art of living “ happiness program they thought us beautiful rules of life, one of them was “ Don’t be a football of other people opinions “ very positive words but when it comes to implementing it’s a real challenge.
Once again I am here with a beautiful story of Mullah Nasruddin and his Son.
One day Mullah Nasruddin and his son were travelling, Nasruddin like to walk while his son was riding a donkey. While travelling, they come a crossed a group of people, one of them passed a comment “look, that boy is so mean he is riding a donkey while his old father is walking that is so thoughtless. What a shameless kid!”
Nasruddin’s son felt embarrassed and decided to walk and asked Nasruddin to please ride on a donkey. As they continue to move ahead after a few hours, they were passing by a village where they saw a group of villager talking about them “oh that’s so shameful!” One of them exclaimed. “That poor young boy is walking while his father is riding a donkey! What an unkind parent!”
Nasruddin was very upset after listening to people thoughts and comments. He just wished to avoid any more comments, so he decided that both Nasruddin and his son will ride on a donkey and will travel. As they move ahead on their way, they meet another group of people. And this time the comment was “That man and his son are so cruel.” One person said, “ just look at these people they are being so pitiless towards a donkey, they should have been punished for being unkind to a donkey.
Nasruddin heard this and told his son, “I guess the only way we can avoid all these opinions of people is by walking.” I think you are right.” the son replied. Once again they started walking and this time as they were passing by another group of people, they heard them laughing. “ Ha, ha-ha.” And made fun of Nasruddin and his son. “Look at those two fools, they are so stupid that both of them are walking in this burning hot day neither son nor his father is riding on a donkey! What a fool!”
Moral of the story- If you are doing what other people want you to do, neither you nor will they be happy. People will never stop judging you.
So, “Don’t be a football of other person’s opinion “.
Lots Of Love
Poonam